Why Losing Weight Makes Us Feel Fat
Have you ever attempted to lose weight – seen the scale drop and felt excited out of your mind?
Maybe you even reached your weight loss goal, dropped into that “magical” size and had a big smile on your face celebrating your success.
You may have looked good – but how did you feel? I’m not talking about how you felt about losing the weight….we both know that’s good and exciting. I’m talking about how did you feel on the inside?
Did you feel GOOD about yourself? Did you feel like “yes, I finally can effortlessly maintain this weight” or maybe even felt “I not only lost weight, but did it with healthy habits that will serve me in life”
Odds are, you rebounded and regained most, if not all of the weight (if you did it the wrong way).
Far too often we go for the “quick fixes”, crash diets or overly intense exercise programs that launch us to our goal, or at least towards it. We find that these “extreme” approaches work – but at what cost?
Once you lose the weight, do you feel GOOD about yourself?
I never did.
In fact, the first time I lost nearly 40 pounds years ago I did it for acceptance of others. I wanted to be found attractive by women and not be called the fat kid by my “buddies” for the first time in my life.
I was so active that I could have some flexibility in my diet – but in the back of my mind was the fear of eating too much or gaining back some of the fat I had dropped. Can’t you see how with this in the back of my mind that it was far more likely to become a reality?
I’m not alone in this – and I’ve recently battled with this all-too-common post weight loss feeling.
Last fall I dropped nearly 40 pounds and 10% body fat to compete in my first bodybuilding competition as a way to “springboard” my new life, health and self-image.
I gained a good chunk of the body fat back not even a month after my competition as I never really “healed” on the inside.
Sure, my body fat was 7% and I was ripped like a GQ Cover Model – but how did I feel?
In the back of my mind I was overly meticulous about what I could and couldn’t eat. I had a higher level of awareness about food than most people, yet something was still off?
The Truth Is We All Face The Same Challenge In Different Ways
If weight loss or maintenance isn’t your challenge, maybe it’s money (often it’s both). It’s the FEAR that we create in our minds about the “thing” – you name it –any unhealthy habit or addiction.
We as humans build up ridiculous stories and false truths where we create personal expectations, limitations and attract self-destruction into our lives.
However if we work on not only the strategy of weight loss, saving money or achieving success with our career – but more importantly on us, how we feel, who we are – the “self” – the part that we all like to avoid and be numb to, then we are doomed for failure.
Do you have a pattern that repeats?
It could be any of these areas – time, money, weight loss, etc.
We SWEAR we’re going to make a permanent, lasting change for success – yet find ourselves still recklessly spending money, binge eating, starving ourselves or stressing ourselves out of our minds.
Do You Want To Know The Secret To TRUE Success In Any Area?
Hard work? Yes – that’s implied with a proven strategy (weight loss plan, financial plan, time management plan, etc.)
But what about how we manage our emotions and state?
If we’re stressed, we’ll be more prone to behavior that conflicts with changes we’re looking to make.
If we’re frustrated or exhausted, we’re more prone to overwhelm and our hormones deciding why we eat, what we eat, when we eat it (you can interchange eat with spend, procrastinate or any other bad habit).
The bottom line is that we do everything for a feeling. If we feel like we don’t want to do something or cant do something we need to do, we’re far more likely to not follow through with it or make it an unbearable thing, like weight loss or maintenance.
Here’s How You Can Have Success In Any Area (including weight loss) Today
Step 1: Be Clear On What You Want
What are you chasing after? Do you want to be healthy, or “full of energy, 20 pounds lighter and down 7% body fat on June 12 2016”? The clearer we are, the faster we can map out our action plan and see “the end in mind”.
Step 2: Select A Proven Strategy
Find someone that is doing what you are and figure out how in the world they did it. There’s 101+ ways to lose weight while exercising once, twice or even five times in a week.
What are you willing to commit to? Find someone that has had success and copy what worked for them – that’s a better start than making it up yourself.
Step 3: Manage Your Time
Stress, anxiety and overwhelm are paralyzing – I’ve been challenged with all 3 in business and life multiple times. The better we manage our time, the more we can reduce or eliminate these.
With weight loss, the biggest time management tool is prepping your food in advance. Weeks where I prep in advance and know my exact intake (which you don’t necessarily need to know for yourself) I not only saw more progress, but also saved time from the initial investment on my “prep session”. More importantly, I felt accomplished and great about myself in the process.
HINT: This applies to any area of life 😉 See the trend?
Step 4: Calm Your Mind & Gain Clarity
We must control our emotions nad state of mind, or it will control us – usually in the form of stress, self-destruction and frustration.
By giving yourself and making time first thing in the morning to focus on your mindset, you’ll set yourself p for an incredible day. If we wake up stressed, we MUST reduce that or how will the rest of our day look?
Odds are, it will continue on the same path of frustration and overwhelm. Even if we walk away having checked off our “to-do list” with some level of success, we’ll be so overwhelmed we wont be able to enjoy the feeling of victory.
Use these strategies to create lasting change with your weight, self image and how you generally feel after seeing success in any area of life
Coach John Casto